This week, I got it wrong. I wrote about an observation I made of someone else. It was not her best moment, and it was not my best blog post. Worse, though, I realized today that I was doing exactly what I had criticized in her; I was being passively aggressive.
I have always thought of my blog as a place for reflection; a journal that I can share with family, friends, and anyone else who cares to visit. Sometimes, though, I struggle with what to share and how much to share. Now I feel bad. By writing negatively about someone else in a public forum, I was basically criticizing her behind her back, which is the behaviour I had found offensive in her.
So, I’m sorry, anonymous person. You didn’t deserve that, and I have removed the post.
This realization has made me rethink the purpose of my blog and whom I perceive to be its audience. As a single person, writing a blog provides me with a social link that I would not otherwise have. It also provides me an opportunity to practise writing and to find my voice. Sometimes I am able to express my humour, and sometimes my angst. Always, though, I intend to be kind.
About a year ago I stopped writing about my dating life because it was not fair to the men I met; they didn’t know they might be subjects for my public musings. Now I feel the need to expand my self-censorship to stop writing about…well, everyone.
If I can think of a way of writing about the world and its inhabitants in an entertaining way without being a hypocrite, I’ll let you know. With humility.
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