Ooops, I did it again!

I signed on to another dating site. It was an accident, I swear! It came about because I joined AARP (American Association of Retired Persons). I did that because they have all sorts of good discounts and good advice on things like health care insurance. I only went […]

A Kindly Racism

I have a friend who refers to people by their racial characteristics. She does this frequently, sometimes after saying “I’m not racist, but…” In many ways she is not racist. She has friends and romantic partners from various ethnic backgrounds, and she appreciates all their good personal qualities. […]

Awkward

This evening I felt uncomfortable watching The Help on TV while a large African-American man baked cornbread in my kitchen. After a few minutes of watching a fictional young white woman bridge America’s racial divide, I realized I was being very inconsiderate to my roommate’s guest. So, I switched […]

Unchained

Being on the road is a remarkably liberating experience. All regular life, activities, and responsibilities are temporarily absent. No commitments and no ties. No work, no play, no boredom, no frenzy. Just the easy feeling of making steady progress. I just drove from Alberta to California. It took […]

Wish lists

When I meet a man at a family gathering, he sees me in an atmosphere of comfort that goes back decades. My family members and I know each others’ histories and we know how to tease each other safely. When I meet a man at work, he sees me […]